“Leaders who don’t listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing to say.”
One of the greatest skills leaders can cultivate is the art of great question-asking. Jesus was the Master of great questions: “What do you want me to do for you?” (Mark 10:51). “Who do people say that I am?” (Matthew 16:13) “But what about you? …Who do you say I am?” (Matthew 16:15).
Leaders who ask great questions draw others out, and in turn enjoy deeper loyalty. Here are 25 questions to get you started in cultivating a deeper connection with those you lead.
- What part of your life fuels your energy most effectively?
- Are you more of an extrovert or an introvert? How does that influence your marriage, your parenting, your ministry, or your career?
- If you weren’t in your current job, what would you like to be doing?
- Where would you like to see yourself in five years? Follow up questions:
- List specific goals for yourself in 5 years.
- What steps do you need to take now in order to achieve those goals then?
- What step do you need to take immediately in order to begin moving in that direction?
- If money weren’t an issue, what dream would you pursue?
- Tell me about the current project you’re working on.
- Tell me your thoughts about church.
- Tell me about your relationships. Which of those relationships are the most fulfilling? What makes them fulfilling?
- Tell me about the most annoying person in your life and what they do that annoys you. What do you see as the underlying cause of tension in that relationship?
- Who is your favorite world leader at this moment? What do you admire about them?
- What would make your marriage more enjoyable for you?
- When do you feel most loved by your spouse?
- How do you best experience God’s presence?
- What specific choices do you make daily to spend time with God?
- If you could do the last five years over, what would you do differently?
- What causes stress or anxiety in your life?
- What techniques do you use to cope with stress in your life?
- How does your childhood influence your relationship with God, your spouse, or your children?
- Where do you see yourself lacking faith?
- What do you think you’ll do to move forward?
- What would you like to do?
- How might that choice impact your relationship? (Or team dynamics, job performance, etc.)
- If you were to change the culture of your organization, what would you like to see change? Are there steps you can take to help facilitate those changes?
- What do you like best about your job?
- How can I pray for you?